It's not. [ He's not trying to be mean, and he makes sure he gets Ryan to look him in the eye so he can soften his gaze pointedly. ] It's not going to get any better each time people say no, either.

Of course, it makes you a stronger person. That's all you'll have to remember. [ And he grabs the coffee mug, winks, and goes back to the counter to refill it. ]